My class had thirty-eight students, and the was busy for six months after we finished.
By the second year, three people were writing and the rest only read.
That is normal, and the friendships that were not the loudest ones.
Four of us meet for coffee on the first Sunday of every second month.
The date is , and nobody has to anything.
Somebody is always , and the meeting happens anyway.
We stopped asking whether everybody could come, because the answer is always no.
Two of the four have children now, so the meeting moved from evening to morning.
That change kept the group together when a evening would have ended it.
A friendship after school needs a date in a calendar more than it needs good .